Working to play

March 16, 2013 § 2 Comments

Working to play

Working to play

We don’t aspire to work,

we aspire to play.

When play is easy and everywhere,

it’s just time passed,

and work is something to avoid.

When play is challenging and rare,

it creates something new,

and work is vital.

Fishing versus Sailing

November 1, 2012 § 1 Comment

My dad isn’t a sailor.

His interest, when I was growing up, was fishing.

We fished every way imaginable. We’d wade into Cedar Creek in search of a hole hiding smallmouth. We’d slide a canoe into Mauthe Lake and drop worms for bluegill. We’d pack the ’74 Dodge Dart, drive north to rent a cottage and an Alumacraft to jig Walleye and hunt the big Muskie on the mighty Flambeau. And we would walk out to the lighthouse at the end of a long rocky break-wall to net smelt or cast for steelhead, depending on the season. When you stand in the shadow of the Port Washington lighthouse (a few blocks from Sailing Magazine’s world headquarters), you are a front row spectator as sailors make way for open water.

Dad thought they were nuts.

Without fail, he’d mumble something like “some of those idiots aren’t coming home. Do they know how dangerous this lake is? It could turn gale in an instant.”

It seemed right, and kinda’ scary to me.

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The Abracadabra Moment: How to find time for family sailing

June 3, 2012 § 2 Comments

First published in Spinsheet Magazine – June 2012


A persistent theme in my writing for Spinsheet is that sailing is fantastically family friendly; unlike any other hobby or free time pursuit, it can be done by, and is fun for, adults and kids together. It’s special that way.

But like anything worth doing, family sailing is never as simple as you hope. The wrench in modern family togetherness is a big one. The more people you have to get to one place, the harder it is to arrive. The more interests within the group, the harder is is to agree. The greater the time required, the harder it is to commit. The more possibilities that you must prepare for (weather, safety, experience), the harder it is to be ready.

In tackling the question of how families might find time to board sailboats together, we need to come at it from three angles, not in any order.

– The age of the parents and kids.
– The family’s flexibility.
– The family plan.

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Hey Kid, Let’s Take Up Fishing

March 1, 2011 § Leave a comment

First published in SpinSheet Magazine – March 2011

Imagine, on a whim that has been dormant for years, you announce to your 17 year old daughter that today is the day that you’ll be taking up fly fishing together. You might say something like this:

Drop what you’re doing, kid; we’re going to the bait shop to pick up camouflage hip waders, rods, reels and tackle, pheasant feathers, mule-hair, two cans of pheromones, frog eggs, and other slimy supplies for tying flies. We’ll head into the basement for the rest of winter to get ready. This spring, we’ll drive 10 hours north, and we’ll wade into an icy stream in the middle of the night in a dark forest on the off chance that we might catch a fish that we’ll have to throw back. It’ll be great! I used to do it with Grandpa when I was a kid. Just you and me. What do you say? Oh, and let’s rent A River Runs Through It tonight. You don’t have any plans, right?

I’m guessing she might sidebar to text a friend about her nutcase dad (or mom) and then tell you, in so many words, to pound sand. Well, to be fair, that’s what my daughter would do. I can’t speak for yours.

But who is to blame her? She’s got serious stuff going on at 17; that boyfriend, her Irish dance career (no matter that she’s not Irish), studying for the SATs, trying out for American Idol. And there is a DJ at school tonight. Busy. Sorry.

Your family fly fishing aspirations? Put them back on the shelf where they belong. You never should’ve brought it up.

I’ve been lucky to spend the better part of the last two years traveling and listening to sailors share their ideas about Saving Sailing. I can report that the situation is about the same everywhere. Most American sailors are boomers and they sail with other boomers. Every town has a decent junior program with many enthused kids in it. Some high school and college kids and young adults sail, but when they marry and have their own kids, they usually quit.

The pressures of modern parenting make them do it. Sailing is impossible with babies and toddlers. You have to swim to sail, and be at least 8 years old. Grade schoolers must be signed up for ten extracurriculars to find one that fits. Middle school and high school-aged kids need to focus; to do one thing and do it well, in order to have the best chance at a large college scholarship or better, an Olympic medal. Helicopter, Soccer and Tiger Moms and Dads unite!*

(*Paragraph italicized to denote sharp sarcasm.)

Invariably, in these Saving Sailing discussions, there will be a college kid or a young couple that aspires to sail long into the future, and who is genuinely concerned that their own love of sailing will fall victim to parenthood, when and if that happens. They’re there to ask how to prevent it.

I respond with the hypothetical tale of almost fly-fishing with a teen daughter. And then I ask what would’ve happened if they had not put fishing (or sailing) on the back-burner between early and late parenthood? What if the daughter had been fishing (or sailing) since she was born? What if she wore a lifejacket and learned to swim while learning to fish (or sail)? Think she would be any less of a student having spent years learning about weather, wind, energy and water? Think she would be any less attractive as a candidate for a college scholarship as a skilled and savvy outdoors-woman? Think she’d tell you to pound sand if you asked her to go with you on any given Saturday, after 17 years of fishing (or sailing)? Think she’d think you were a nutcase for having the idea in the first place?

Of course fishing and sailing are not impossible with babies and toddlers. They never were. Parents can make provisions. They always have. A sailboat (or a fishing boat for that matter) can be outfitted with a car seat and the kids dressed in the right clothes and safety equipment and slathered with sunscreen. The format can be adjusted to accommodate the special needs of these tiny people. Grade schoolers might try as many things as they think might be interesting, but not if it gets in the way of fun outdoor family time. Given the chance to learn among adults, kids of any age will certainly learn special skills and lessons that can never be taught indoors or in packs of like-aged kids. Middle and high schoolers can focus just as well on something they like to do with mom or dad, as they do without. Perhaps most importantly, kids who are familiar with nature and who value intergenerational experiences are much less likely to develop video game or other media consumption habits. They’re aware of a far better alternative. Guiding these choices and creating these opportunities are among the central roles of the modern American parent.

So the first step in finding time for family sailing is to never stop sailing in the first place.

Note: I am pleased to report that in most US cities there is at least one sailing organization that would be eager to help young parents make these choices and create these opportunities. (If you can’t find one, email me at and I’ll try to help.)

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